Each of us face losses and endings. These occasions tend to sadden us. We also frequently face the start of something new. In fact each ending reflects a new beginning. This may make us feel happy or sad. Today’s post provides tips on how to turn sorrows into joy, losses into wins and endings into beginnings. SECRET TIP: Joy or sorrow, happiness or sadness depends on our thoughts and attitudes. We control our thoughts. Thus we can control our attitudes. How many would rather be happy than sad? Hmmm!!!
James 1:2 New Living Translation Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy.
1 Peter 1:6 In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in various trials
Fortunately for us, life is dynamic—constantly changing, rather than static—stuck in one spot. When and if we allow it, our sorrows can enhance our joys. Below are tips on how to focus on what you have rather than what you do not have; how to use loss as a stepping stone to gain; how to turn sorrow into joy; and, how to turn hate into love.
5 TIPS FOR CHANGING SORROWS TO JOY
LOSSES TO WINS, ENDINGS TO BEGINNINGS
1. RECOGNIZE we control our thoughts. We can think about how much money we have or don’t have; how sick we are or how we woke up this morning; how lonely and unloved we are, or how much God loves us. The media tries to shape our thoughts in a certain way by harping on or presenting ideas in ways that are attractive to us. Unfortunately, many fall victim to the world’s hype. We have to have the latest car, hairstyle, purse/shoes, or whatever is one’s personal weakness. We tend to focus on ‘getting’, more this, that or the other. Few focus on giving—more of them-self, more love, more kindness. Believers who follow God’s teachings not only reap the benefits of God’s Word in the here-and-now but also in the world to come.
Luke 6:38 NIV Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”
2. TAKE CONTROL of your thoughts. Make a conscious decision to focus on have’s, rather than have-not’s; feeling good rather than feeling bad; happy thoughts rather than sad ones. For many this will require practice. Take a moment right now and think about something that makes you feel happy. Our brain is constantly bombarded with thoughts that can overwhelm us if we allow it. But, try this. When unhappiness, sadness or sorrow hits, recall a time when you did something you were proud of. The more you practice this the easier it will become.
3. REMEMBER nothing in this earthly realm lasts forever. Neither good times or bad times, good health or illness, times of wealth or times of lack; even, or maybe especially, life does not last. Since all things are temporal, or for a time, one can endure and outlast the bad times, and should store in memory the good times so they can be recalled to mind when needed.
4. PRAY frequently. Make God an integral part of your life, not just someone whom you praise and worship on an occasional basis. Talk to and with Him when you arise in the morning and when you retire at night. Lay all your cares on Him. Turn to Him for guidance and direction. Listen for His instructions and directions; then follow them. Once you have given Him a burden, allow Him to handle it. Do Not take it back. Do Not fret or worry. There is no fear in faith.
5. TRUST, BELIEVE, HAVE FAITH. Finally, do not give up on God. HE will not give up on you. HIS time is not our time. If you read God’s Word daily, it will strengthen you. Knowing His promises; knowing what He has done in the past will strengthen your ability to wait on Him to take action on your situation. Talk with other believers. Learn what God has done in their lives and share what He has done in yours. These actions will strengthen each of you.
Proverbs 3:5-6. “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
As we approach the end of the summer season, remember God is in control. Whether you are in the midst of a storm, coming out of a storm or facing a storm, God’s got you and will never leave nor forsake you. Have a safe, blessed and happy Labor Day.
Theresa Newell, HLC Ministry Team